Wednesday, August 1, 2012

May the cloth be with you’: Why these enlightened moms are choosing cloth over disposable nappies


It’s practical, economical–plus, these young mothers want to change the world, one diaper at a time not just for the environment, but for their babies’ health and safety

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Baby inside Jen Tan’s sling.
This grandmother feels the world will be all right if left in the hands of this new batch of mothers who, with such ease, use terms like “attachment parenting,” “baby wearing,” “baby-led weaning,” “communication on elimination” (that’s watching for baby’s cues for readiness for potty training).

More than that, they have found ways to make time-tested, natural ways of parenting compatible with their busy, urban lives.

My own daughter Kimi got me curious after she phased out her baby’s old-fashioned cloth and disposable diapers to make way for modern cloth diapers. Grandchild Kai has adjusted to them and looks doubly cute in her tushi wushies (a brand of modern cloth diaper, but it has almost become a generic word for them).

SATISFIED mom-preneur sells modern cloth diapers.

Every so often, Kimi would receive “fluff packages” containing her latest orders of cloth diapers. She shops and pays online, does “group buys” to bring down the unit cost, and is part of a Facebook group that shares experiences in washing and drying diapers made of cloth from natural materials.

By her lonesome, she has become a tushi proselytizer, turning her cousins into happy converts. They send each other Instagram photos of their babies in the latest diaper print.

Using their language, it was time this lola “eyeballed” the women behind this natural parenting movement to find out how it got started and how it is helping save the environment in a big way.

Jen CC Tan is acknowledged for leading the way in creating baby slings and introducing modern cloth diapers. Her business card describes her as an “über mom,” apart from being president of Next 9 that is out to reinvent motherhood through the production of fashion slings, baby covers and innovative cloth diapers.

Twelve years ago, she read up on Dr. William Sears, “who made sense to me,” she said, “because his ideas on attachment parenting sought to make the child confident while he or she is still small by carrying them, attending to their needs and wants which are the same.”


Toddler in an up-to-date “Spider-Man” cloth diaper.
Jenny Ong, a lawyer whose blog www.chroniclesofanursingmom.com takes on milk companies who are going around the law promoting breast-feeding, said old folks believe that a young child cries and cries if he/she is “spoiled” by always being carried by the mother.

Carried and comforted

She disputed this, explaining that “a child can’t differentiate between want and need yet, is not capable of manipulating an adult. When they cry, they want to be carried and comforted by the mom.”

Wearing a baby through a sling rather than carrying the baby in one’s arms worked for her. Her hands were free to do other things.

Tan bought her first sling, an American brand, from Singapore, so the material was warm. She copied the design, using cotton. When she’d attend meetings of breast-feeding moms, they’d ask where she got the sling. She made a few extra ones for them until it hit her that there was a market for it.


Baby sling on Abie Co Floreza doubles as cover for breast-feeding.
She sources the rings from abroad so as not to be embroiled in safety issues. The cloth she buys from Divisoria, and has a modista sew them for her. A sling can carry a child of up to two years old or 30 pounds. Her goal is to source local weavers for these slings as a way of keeping the weaving industry alive.

She also used flat-folded cloth (bird’s eye or gauze) diapers on her two sons until four years ago, when she discovered in magazines that contoured diapers with waterproof outer layers were available. At that time, the prices were prohibitive at P1,000  each because they were all imported from the US.

She found better and cheaper ones at an expo in China, then decided to make her own line. Tan recalled, “The ones I first made were of Velcro, in small, medium and large. Pinoys are frugal, so they preferred to buy the medium in big amounts because the size fits most babies. With the snaps, one can adjust the diaper from newborn size up to 30 pounds.”

She thought how cute these diapers looked and made them available locally by establishing an online presence through FB and friends who blog. (Her company’s site is www.next9.org.) The diapers are also at Brock and Mortar stores, Babyland, Infanticipation at Festival Mall in Alabang, Mamaway at Greenhills Town Center in Ortigas Ave., and Kuku Duckbill at Market! Market! in Taguig City.

She said the waterproof textiles of these cloth diapers are safe, manmade synthetics and environment-friendly. The liners/inserts are made of organic fabrics like cotton, bamboo, charcoal, fleece, hemp, microfiber, suede, linen.


Modern cloth diapers in solid colors. PHOTOS BY ELIZABETH LOLARGA
At their seminar “Cloth Diapering 101” at the Medela House in New Manila, Quezon City, some mothers testified how they’ve been “100-percent cloth diapering their babies day and night.” It can even be done on out-of-town trips or family vacations, despite the added chore of washing and drying the diapers under the sun.

The savings are big. The variety of prints makes buying cloth diapers fun (almost addicting, in the case of Kimi Fernandez), and there’s the assurance of nothing toxic in them, especially for babies with sensitive skin. The diapers today not only come in plain or solid colors, but also in prints of rockets, butterflies, bears, alphabets, flowers and more.

Consumers have not been adequately warned that disposable diapers contain carcinogenic by-products like plastic, dioxin or a gel-like substance that expands and absorbs wetness also found in tampons but have been proven toxic. Then there are allergy triggers like fragrances.

Abie Co-Floreza, a partner of a cloth diaper online store called Tickled Moms, said, “We have to limit the toxic pollutants that reach our babies because the environment is polluted enough.”

Doing the math


CLOTH inserts or pads that go inside the outer wet-proof panties
Tan and her co-mothers have done their math. If a mother buys a high-end disposable diaper or “dryper” at P8.50 each, she can spend up to P24,820 a year. A mom like Kimi, who lives in rainy Baguio, can claim exclusive cloth diaper usage at 24 pieces for baby Kai and does laundry every other day.

She said one must consider from six to eight nappy changes a day. She has invested P6,000 on these cloth diapers, one fourth the amount that could be spent yearly on disposable diapers. She is also assured that these diapers will last Kai until she is potty trained because “it’s one size fits most.”

Clarice Aviñante said it’s not enough to make the switch. The mother should learn how to “prep” a cloth diaper, depending on the material it’s made of. The waterproof outer layer needs one washing in cold water, then it’s ready for use.

Liners of bamboo cloth need washing in cold water of seven to nine times before they reach maximum absorbency.

She taught a “cheat” technique: wash the liners once, and have the baby wear it for shorter periods until the nappy hits its maximum absorbency.

The mom must ensure a snug fit by adjusting the waist and hip snaps to accommodate the baby’s leg and waist sizes. If the inserts are too long, they can be folded. Snugness means no spaces on the legs or back that can cause the urine to leak.

Change the diaper every two to three hours the way one does with disposables. Both outer cover and liner must be changed for hygiene purposes.

When to do laundry? Aviñante shared this formula: the number of diapers you need to have equals the diapers baby needs a day multiplied with the days when you plan to go between washes plus one.

If a baby uses up 12 diapers a day and you wash every other day, you’ll need a total of 36 cloth diapers.

In choosing a detergent for cloth diapers, ensure that it has no brighteners, no dyes, no fragrance, no softeners and no chlorine bleach. Separate covers or pockets from the soakers (inserts or liners). Put just one half of the usual amount of detergent. Rinse the diapers in cold water. Do it twice to ensure no detergent suds are left. Line dry horizontally so the elastics of the cover pants are not ruined.

Choosing cloth diapers needs determination. Aviñante said there are five pointers to make the choice work:

  • Change your mind-set. Do not try to do it. DO IT.

  • Invest.

  • Do not buy disposable diapers.

  • Educate people around you—your spouse, your parents, your yaya, your siblings.

  • Deal with stressors one at a time. Mothers find themselves in stressful situations from the time she gives birth to caring for the newborn, breast-feeding, undergoing postpartum depression.

Modern cloth diapers remain the wiser choice, these women were one in saying.  “Drypers” or disposables leave behind a huge carbon footprint when manufacturing, packaging, delivery to grocery shelves, marketing and sales are considered. These disposables also take from 100 to 500 years to decompose.

Sunday, November 20, 2011

Don and Annalou: When true love goes beyond teenage years



Better Half
By EUGENE Y. SANTOS

Photo by PINGGOT ZULUETA
Photo by PINGGOT ZULUETA
MANILA, Philippines — One’s teenage period is said to be a crucial part of life, as this is usually the transition phase from childhood to adulthood. For restaurateurs Don and Annalou Ho, adolescence paved the way for true, realistic, everlasting love.
Annalou first met Don during her Halloween-and-birthday-celebration party back in October 31, 1993. Both of them were based in Los Angeles, California then. It was a typical teenage party, complete with mutual friends. “He crashed my party. I had a birthday [celebration too] because my birthday’s on November 2,” says Annalou. “I was invited,” interjects Don. “Sort of,” reiterates Annalou. “One of my friends invited Don but didn’t tell me that he invited Don. We have mutual friends and then he came with his friends. I was mean to Don because I felt he crashed my party. But a week later, one of our friends kind of hooked us up so we started talking on the phone.”
Through communication, Don and Annalou sparked a connection between them. They felt that their personalities really jibed with one another. Don loved Annalou’s feisty zest for life while Annalou found a good, caring confidante in Don. On December 7, 1993, they officially declared themselves as a couple. However, Don had to move to Texas in January 1994, where he lived with his sister for a year. Hence, they decided to pursue a long distance relationship. They kept their relationship intact by calling each other every day.
“This was before the Internet,” shares Don, “so we would just talk for hours. The telephone bills would amount to around a thousand dollars. It was very costly at that time.” Annalou adds, “My parents would be mad and his sister would be mad because the phone bills were so high.”
The year-long long distance relationship definitely strengthened Don and Annalou’s commitment to each other. “It’s what made our relationship strong because we ended up being best friends through the phone, because you get to know so much about each other on a daily basis,” says Annalou. “I think the best thing about our relationship is open communication. We don’t keep anything from each other. We’re very close and we became best friends through that year.” Don moved back to Los Angeles in February 1995.
In retrospect, Don and Annalou have their fair share of funny moments as teenagers, which they recount fondly in the present. “The first time we ever went on a date, I was a 15-year-old kid trying to be romantic,” says Don. “It was our first date and I bought a rose for her, not knowing that she was behind me. So when I turned around, I poked her eye with the rose.” As Annalou shares, “He was so clumsy about it. He was so nervous that he accidentally poked me on the eye with the rose and I was like, ‘Ahhh…’ and he was like, ‘I’m sorry. I’m sorry.’ He thought I was going to break up with him. It was our first date, like we just went to the mall. We went to City Walk in Universal Studios for our first date.”
As teenagers, Annalou humorously recalls that “we were bad. Just to be with each other, we defied orders. His parents were strict. My parents were strict. And we tried to see each other often.”
Don and Annalou lived a bit far from each other, even if they were both based in Los Angeles then. He studied in the Reseda High School and lived in the Reseda area. She, on the other hand, lived in the Granada Hills area and studied in the Bishop Alemany High School.
When they were young, Don says that he even snuck out in the evenings and drove his way to Annalou’s house. “I would stay and try to wait for him. And in almost three nights in a row, I fell asleep and I couldn’t hear him throwing rocks at my window. He even hid in my closet a few times,” relates Annalou.
“Most of the things we’ve done in the earlier stages of our relationship, being 15-years-old and in love… being in love makes you do the stupidest things in life,” says Don. For this couple, there are no regrets, only memories to share on how they witnessed each other grow up through the best and the worst of the times.
Despite being high school sweethearts, Don and Annalou claim that their story is “not a fairy tale.” Just like any other couple, they also admit to having their own imperfections. Six years onto their relationship, Don and Annalou took a “hiatus” from each other. For four to six months, they evaluated their options in life and the “painful issues” they faced then. They barely contacted each other.
Looking back, it was a healthy move for the two. They learned to forgive each other’s shortcomings and were able to learn that it takes two to tango in a relationship. Thus, the couple learned how to balance each other through compromise.
In February 2000, Don and Annalou decided to give their relationship a second chance. It was a clean slate, where they began as friends again, before declaring themselves as a fully reunited couple. “It was like falling in love the second time around,” says Don. “It’s like having a ‘new relationship’ but the enlightening part of it is that it was based on a more mature level,” adds Annalou.
After they reunited, Don and Annalou’s relationship became more stable. Through the years, they earned the respect of each other’s families. “We’re both family-oriented. Whatever is mine and whatever he has, we share it. I think the generosity from each of our sides gained the respect of our families,” says Annalou.
Raised as Catholics, Don and Annalou valued the sanctity of marriage. Even if their relationship grew stronger through the years, it was something they did not rush into until both of them felt ready for it.
Ironically, they became officially married in Las Vegas back in May 30, 2008, in a quick wedding ceremony. It was initially for a legal purpose, considering that a marriage license and official documents are processed faster when wed there. However, it turned out to be a romantic event for Don and Annalou.
They consider it as a very intimate moment. It was just the two of them (by choice), and they were wearing everyday clothes such as jeans. “Our witnesses were just a receptionist and the security guard that worked [in the venue where we got married],” says Don.
It was supposed to be casual. But as soon as they stood in the chapel and went on with the ceremony, emotions bubbled to the surface, a testament to true love conquering life’s ups and downs. “When we got to the chapel, as soon as we joined hands, and as soon as the minister said his first word, it hit us that we’re getting married,” shares Don. “We cried,” adds Annalou. “It was that moment of 30 seconds of like, ‘Wow, I’m getting married to this guy.’ No matter how much we felt like it was going to be casual, it did not. It’s because we were like, ‘I’m going to spend the rest of my life with this person.’”
On March 21, 2009, Don and Annalou held a grand wedding celebration to share their appreciation of their loved ones. “It was for our family, since we already had our moment together in Las Vegas,” says Don. The wedding ceremony paid due respect to Don’s Chinese-Vietnamese heritage and to Annalou’s Filipino roots. It started with a tea ceremony from Annalou’s house to Don’s house, followed by a church ceremony at the Saint Euphrasia Catholic Church in Bernardo Hills in California.
They had around 300 guests. At the reception, which was held in CBS Studios in Universal Studios, Don says that “we didn’t do the traditional bouquet toss. It was about live entertainment. It was really for the guests.” It was an interactive, Hollywood-inspired party, with entertaining performances and live music.
Last year, Don and Annalou moved to the Philippines. This is for Annalou to be closer to her mother, who moved to the country after retirement, and her younger sister. The couple also saw the potential of Manila’s thriving local dining scene. With this in mind, they put up the restaurant Le Fusion by Chef Don Ho Restaurant and Wine Bar Lounge at the Bonifacio Global City in Taguig, where they serve fusion-style dishes mostly cooked using modern molecular gastronomy techniques. “We evaluated the Philippines and it’s a growing country and it’s a place where there’s room for success in the food industry,” says Annalou.
On managing a restaurant together, Don and Annalou address whatever professional differences they may have through communication and thorough discussions. “But as soon as we walk out of the restaurant, we don’t take work at home,” says Don. “We’re very relaxed at home. We watch TV shows together or just share a nice meal,” adds Annalou
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